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Ripening Retreats · For one couple at a time

Ripen your capacity for pleasure.

A private retreat, designed just for your couple, to deepen connection and become the lovers you have longed to be.

The Ripening Model of Secure Erotic Functioning

My newest application of PACT is for couples who are truly ready to do the work of expanding their erotic capacities. Rather than chasing performance, we cultivate the conditions in which desire, safety, and aliveness can ripen together.

Alongside my colleague, I run personalized retreats designed for a single couple at a time — so the work can be tailored entirely to who you are and what you long for.

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We meet you where you are

Before we gather, we listen — to your history, your longings, and the edges where things feel stuck.

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We slow everything down

Working bottom-up and moment-to-moment, we attend to bodies and nervous systems, not just the story.

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You leave with new capacities

Skills and experiences that ripen over time, so the work continues long after the retreat ends.

Three ways to gather

Just for you

A private retreat for your couple

Personalized and designed for a single couple at a time, so the work is tailored entirely to who you are.

For committed couples
In community

Skills for ripening over the erotic lifespan

A retreat for couples ready to deepen their erotic connection alongside others on the same path.

A retreat for couples
For clinicians

Bottom-up & moment-to-moment sex therapy

An online study group for clinicians who want to apply PACT skillfully to even the most complex sexual issues.

A professional study group

Begin the conversation

Become the lovers you have longed to be.